The 3 Destructive, but Common Dating Mistakes Men Make
Try to prove to the girl that he is the guy for her
One of the most common dating mistakes men make is to try to prove to the girl that he is the guy for her. A lot of men are guilty of this, they send emails with a list of 10 reasons we are compatible, make mix CDs with songs they both like and other such nonsense. It is like they are trying to constantly remind her how great they would be together and somehow thinking she would respond with something like, «Oh, yeah, that’s right – we are such a good match.»
As you can guess, once that gets old, you will end up having conversations with her voicemail for three weeks. You just can’t push a woman into the answer you want. She will feel that pressure and resist it. No one likes feeling cornered. If you let her come to the conclusion that you are the right guy on her own, she is much more likely to believe fate is at play.
Trying to tell the women they like how they feel
Too many men run around trying to tell the women they like how they feel. This can be a tough one for some guys, but you need to understand that your desire to clearly express your feelings and force her to reciprocate is not going to work. Here’s the deal: The possibility of attraction does not lie in the feelings she knows you have, but rather in the feelings she hopes you have. While this might not sound very fair, the first person to fess up to their feelings is the one who is really infatuated, and you want that to be her.
Spend too much time worrying about saying the right things
Men spend too much time worrying about saying the right things, when they should really be worrying more about saying the wrong things. Finding the perfect pickup line or the right thing to say is not the key to creating attraction. It is far more important to avoid saying the wrong thing. This is one of the most common dating mistakes men make and can have a devastating effect on your chance to get the woman you want.
Remember, it is far more important for you to have confidence, good timing, good body language and good game. Saying the wrong things will ruin your chance, so remember that your best success with women will come from not screwing up the simple stuff.
Try to push things way too fast and lock it in with the woman they want right away
I know my title promised three common dating mistakes men make, but I really have to stick this one in too. So, one more dating mistake is that most guys try to push things way too fast and lock it in with the woman they want right away. Think of creating attraction like a really good movie. What do you enjoy about thrillers or mysteries? Yep, it’s that whole thing about not knowing exactly what is going to happen next. Like with a good movie, it is the tension and suspense that makes creating attraction work.
While security and comfort is important to a long-term relationship, the key to creating that initial attraction is uncertainty and not knowing exactly how the other person feels. Not knowing, punctuated with moments of sheer joy as bits of feelings are revealed, is exactly what you need in the beginning.
So, now you can see how that relationship book author made some big mistakes by focusing on logic, rather than emotion. Unlocking the «attraction code» comes from getting the woman you want to feel that gut-level attraction necessary to get things started. Like men, women do not logically determine who they are and are not attracted to.
You can learn how to create this gut-level attraction in a matter of hours by picking up a few simple skills. I want to see you start receiving real results and to get on the fast track to dating success. To do this, you must hone your dating skills and learn the simple tricks of the trade, while avoiding the common dating mistakes men make.