Love Does Not Cost A Thing – Part 3
Certainly, no romance without finance!
Indeed, that real-life scenario narrated in the box above raises a whole lot of questions, as follows:
- Is there a connection between love and money?
- Do you need money to express true love?
- What is the meaning of true love?
- Should a poor man refrain from getting married and having children because he is not well to do and cannot provide expensive gifts and means of sustenance for his family?
- For that matter, should he refrain from falling in love altogether?
- Should the quality of love be determined by the cost of the gift?
- Don’t poor people deserve to be loved as much as the rich?
- What about the idea that love does not cost a thing? Is it a fact or an unsubstantiated hypothesis?
Love Does Not Cost a Thing! Personally, l strongly believe that love does not cost a thing! In other words, there should not be a connection between love and money. A man should not need money to express true love. And why is that? Simple! It is because love does not cost a thing! That’s why! l simply cannot repeat that enough! Yes, love does not cost a thing! Humorous, is it?
Of course not! But, looking at the real-life scenario above once again, it is obvious that the likes of Mr. Bill feels that there is a connection between love and money. In other words, he feels that a man needs money to express his love for his wife. So, he feels that his wife was justified for leaving him when he suddenly fell from grace to grass. He also feels that a poor man does not deserve to be loved. l ask you. Does that sound reasonable?
Don’t poor people – or poor men, to be precise – deserve to be loved as much as the rich?
Of course they do! So, should a poor man refrain from getting married and having children because he is not rich and cannot provide expensive gifts and means of sustenance for his family? Should he refrain from falling in love at all, for that matter? Of course not! There is one very pathetic relationship counsellor that l used to know who always taught young girls that before two individuals think of marriage, they should consider their pockets. According to her, “If a man cannot feed himself, will he be able to feed his wife and children?”That is one hell of a relationship counsellor indeed. Just look at the utter trash that she used to feed the young gullible girls. She reconstructed MATRIMONY to become MATRI-MONEY. By her definition, marriage means”matrimony is the combination of two words: MATRI – the shape of – and MONEY”.
In other words, according to her definition above, the shape of marriage is MONEY. “We need money to EXPRESS True Love.”She would insist. But, you know as well as l do that that is not true! It is a fairy tale! No! In fact, it is a hocus-pocus badder-dash, if l ever heard one! Now, let me tell you about the meaning and the cost of true love. Love, genuine, undying, true love is being there for your partner, not when things are going on smoothly and hitch-free, but when he or she needs you the most.
Additionally, it is expressed unconditionally without promise of monetary or material gifts or even sexual gratification and irrespective of whether it is convenient or not for the person expressing it to do so. Hence, the person possessing love – true love, that is – for another, usually the opposite sex, simply expresses the deep emotional feeling that he or she has towards the other without waiting to be prompted or motivated by gifts in kind or cash.
Consequently, the person possessing true love gives up his or her own personal preferences and desires and makes sacrifices on behalf of his or her partner, whenever necessary, which may even require dying on behalf of his or her partner. To this end, the person possessing true love does not primarily seek to take. The loving person takes into consideration the needs and feelings of his or her partner, regarding his or her own personal needs and interests as secondary. The person possessing true love gives, gives and yet seek further ways to give. That is the meaning of true love. Any other professed love which has money and financial reward as its basis is a fair-weather love and is not true love at all! In other words, true, genuine, undying love does not cost a thing! That is the only cost of true love. You will see why love does not cost a thing in a short while.
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Simply, click this link to claim your personal free download of the e-book, “The True Meaning of Love”now. How Should the Quality of Love be Measured? In the same vein, the quality of true love should not be measured in terms of the cost of gift purchased. In the case of Mr. Bill, he not only believed that as a poor man he did not deserve to be loved and cared for by a woman, but he also believed, quite erroneously, that the quality of his love should be determined by the cost of the gift he purchased for his wife. How sad indeed!
So, if Bill had bought a simple bouquet of flowers for her to reconcile with her, rather than the very expensive car that he got for her, she would not have valued it. How truly sad! That is not true love at all; because true love does not cost a thing! Alright, let us stretch this a little further. If Mr. Bill wanted to display to his wife display that the quality of his fair-weather love was very great indeed, then why didn’t he buy her a private jet; if indeed it was the most expensive gift that he was looking to buy for her on their anniversary? Anyway, let us forget about Mr. Bill and his fair-weather love of a wife and do a neater job of this write-up!
Why Love Does Not Cost a Thing Do you know why love does not cost a thing?
It is because money does not guarantee happiness in a relationship and even marriage. If it does, wealthy people would not experience separation or even a divorce. And just to remind you that poor people marry too and many of them do not break up after eight years of marriage – only to make up again after three good years of living apart with the bribe of a flashy car – as if that is what love is all about. Yes, poor people deserve to be loved as much as the rich.
Personally, l even feel that money in a relationship is an unncessary distraction. And that is because it does not afford the partners a chance to prove their love to be true and undying, tried and tested. Consequently, a wealthy man might scream and make a nuisance of himself in his neighnourhood or even the world at large through the internet, “l found true love and l can help you find true love too!”But, on what basis does he rest his self-assured confidence? Has his professed true love been tried and tested like a piece of metal that has gone through a heated furnace and come out stronger? Yes, indeed! Love, true, genuine, undying love does not cost a thing! And you do not need any money whatsoever to express true love. But that is not say that occasional exchange of gifts among lovers is wrong. However, the love expressed should not be based on such occasional gifts, as if the love was being bought.
On the other hand, the greatest gift that you can give your partner is to be there for him or her when the chips are down and he or she needs you the most. If that is not the case in your relationship, then it means that your relationship is a fair-weather one indeed. And what is a fair-weather relationship? It is a relationship where monetary and financial reward serve as the sole basis for the relationship. Remember Mr. Bill and Mrs. Gill? The easiest way for you to have a fuller understanding of a fair-weather relationship is that which a man has with a harlot.
Thus, a man may decide to patronize the services of a harlot, but love, much less true love, is absent in the brief relationship. It is purely a financial transaction; that is, buying and selling. Nothing more. Nothing less. A fair-weather relationship is like that. A fair-weather relationship is not the best for anyone. And that is because fair-weather relationships have a specific life span. True, genuine, undying love should be cherished by all because it lasts a lifetime. Contrary to what many people think, you do not need any money whatsoever to express true love. Yes, genuine, enduring, undying true love does not cost a thing!